Our Struggle with Secondary Infertility

our struggle with secondary infertility

If you know us, you probably know that we have always wanted a large family; this is something that we both knew before we were married, and we believe that God placed that desire in our hearts…

…which is why it is hard to understand why we have been struggling with secondary infertility for two years now.

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Secondary infertility: the inability to become pregnant, or to carry a pregnancy to term, following the birth of one or more biological children. The birth of the first child does not involve any assisted reproductive technologies or fertility medications.

This is something that is hard for us to discuss; we have hardly shared it with anyone. However, we both feel like we need to share this with you all for a few reasons: first, we need prayer partners. Yes, we need support. We definitely have a a few incredible close friends with whom we’ve shared this information, and they’re so supportive and caring. However, we need the prayers of you all, family and friends, as well.

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Also, we know that we aren’t the only ones facing this. We’d never heard of secondary infertility until it was briefly mentioned to me about 1 ½ years ago. So hopefully, this will help you understand better. If anything, we pray that it may open your eyes to the hurt that may be around you in others of which you’re unaware. Secondary infertility is a hard battle in our opinion, because there is so much guilt associated with it.

We’re sorry if this feels thrown at you. We need to share because there is a suffocating feeling of going through this without talking about it. It’s hard to be constantly supportive and thrilled when a new pregnancy is announced, a baby bump picture is posted, or we pass by a “Big Brother” t-shirt. It is difficult to choke down the pain that rises whenever someone complains about being pregnant, or far worse, when someone who is pregnant doesn’t want to be.

What I believe is the hardest part of the situation is the fact that we already know what it feels like to experience a beautiful birth. We know what it feels like to awaken to kicks in the ribs. We know what it feels like for that little one to have hiccups 23 times a day. We know what it felt like the second we laid eyes on the gift from God we’d been holding and rocking in our life-filled womb for 9 months.

I believe to know what that feels like, to want it so bad you can literally taste it, and not be able to have it again is some of the hardest pain to endure. Especially when we endure it alone because we feel guilty.

we already have a baby

We already have a baby. He’s precious. He is absolutely everything we dreamed of, and far, far more. He is so intelligent, kind, compassionate, hilarious, stubborn, musical, silly, challenging, and genuine—even at the age of 3. We are so blessed.. Why in the world are we whining about not having another baby when there are people out there who can’t even birth one child? 

We’ve come to realize that Satan planted this thought in our minds. Satan wants us to keep quiet. He wants us to remain in a hopeless, silent, dreary world. Why would he want us to make bonds with others through prayer, or to inspire others to share their struggles? What’s worse is that he wants us to be mad at God.

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We went through that phase—the phase where we could only ask “Why?” Why would you give that baby to that girl who is just going to throw it away? Why would you give that baby to the family that is struggling to feed the 12 kids they already have and really can’t handle/don’t want another one? I’m right here! Womb ready! I will love and cherish and nurture that baby. These conversations happened on many occasions.. and I’d be lying if I said that I never feel a twinge of pain and want to reiterate those questions again.

Through the months that we were on fertility medications and Lyndsey was going to the doctor 3+ times per month to have ultrasounds and appointments to talk about her bad ovaries and her tiny follicles, we wondered why. There were families in the waiting room that were discussing loudly their family problems (drowning out the episode of Fixer Upper on the tv), and how they couldn’t believe they were having twins.. “we don’t have time to take care of twins; we can’t even take care of ourselves.” While I was sitting there, begging for twins to love. Why them and not me, God?

Our Struggle doesn't matter

We have often thought, in the grand scheme of things, that our struggle doesn’t matter. There are others who have no children. There are those who’ve only experienced miscarriages. There are those who’ve lost lives through the process of childbirth. We have a sweet baby, we just need to hush and be content and happy with what God has given us.

However, this struggle is real. It really is.

we long for more family

There are plenty of others facing the same situations. It’s as real as [regular] infertility. We have a child begging for a baby brother and a baby sister, and we so long to give him that. He is struggling, too; we can see it when he sees his friends with brothers and sisters. We were created with the longing for family. The three of us are longing for more family.

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We realize that if we were both healthier, it would increase our chances of pregnancy. We also know that God can overcome that even as we are feebly striving inch by inch to become healthier to God’s glory.

We realize that we are both in seminary with a tight budget, but we also know that the same God who has provided for us this far will continue to provide for any child that He chooses to give us. Yes, we know that many of you are the very reason we still have a roof over our heads. You’ve have loaned us money much more recently than we care to admit so that we wouldn’t have to decide whether we would turn to unjust creditors (Don’t worry – we’re still paying you back! 🙂 ). You’ve have given us money just at the moment God led them to because He knew we had that extra bill. Many times God used you to provide before we knew we had the need. You have given us gifts to encourage us as we have strived to budget wisely and manage costs effectively. We understand that money is a big deal; you kind of need it to survive in this world. But God has also continually taught us that we don’t need as much as we think we do, and sacrificing for the sake of new life or providing a better life for someone else is well worth any perceived sacrifice.

We realize that with Charles beginning to taking more classes along with Lyndsey’s already busy schedule, our time will be stretched even thinner with another child. But we can’t forget the joy in our lives for these last four years of having Andrew in our lives. Yes, we will be busy. We will always be. Everyone is. But the desire of our heart is to fill our lives with the busy-ness of serving God and glorifying Him with our family, not to busy ourselves with work and education for the sake of work and education.

pray with us

So, now, after all of that, we come to the reason we are writing our story, not for pity or attention, but prayer. We would ask you to consider praying with us.

We pray that we can truly be content with what God has given us.

We pray that if God is waiting for us to make life changes before He gives us another baby, then He would should us how to make them and give us the strength to continue.

We pray that if God wants us to foster a child temporarily for His glory, then He would make it clear and would prepare our hearts for the joy and agony that will surely accompany that task.

We pray that if God wants us to foster a child until we are able to adopt that same child, then He would make that clear and prepare us for the hills of work and the mountains of joy along with the valleys of pain as we demonstrate the love and grace through adoption that God has extended to us.

We pray that if God wants us to forever be a family of three, then He would also make that clear to us so that we can seek to turn our desire into blessings for others who need to feel God’s love through our family.

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Thank you for hearing our hearts and loving us through life.

Charles, Lyndsey, and Andrew Huckaby

 

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Future Farmer of America: 10/17/2015

Hey yall!

We hope you’re all doing well. We have been incredibly busy; I feel like that sentence is probably found in all of our blogposts.. It is still true, nonetheless.

However, today, we took a break and went to Green Meadows Petting Farm and Pumpkin Patch with our besties. It was a BIG day..

We weren’t really sure how Andrew would do with a petting farm.. we’ve never really taken him to pet animals, but we knew he loved them! However, we all agreed that we wanted to go somewhere where we would get our money’s worth. I do believe that today we did just that.

At the farm, there were cows and calves, horses and ponies, geese, ducks and ducklings, chickens and chicks, turkeys, pigs and racing piglets, llamas, alpacas, a yak, goats, sheep, a big turtle, and bunnies.

Andrew either petted, fed, milked or chased each of animals. NO KIDDING.

We were amazed! He wanted to do it all! I was a bit uneasy about some of the ones with hooves and sharp beaks, but Charles was in hog-heaven (pun intended)!

So, Charles took him into most of the pens, and Andrew fed as many animals as he was able. He and Charles also got to milk a cow! It was quite the experience.

We also got a few pumpkins and rode a hayride, but we didn’t get to do the little maze they had– we were all worn out!

Needless to say, we got our 36$ worth, and a sunburn to go with it! It was a perfect day though, and a Chick-fil-a following only made it better.

I was so excited thinking about all of the possibilities for the future with our little animal loving boy.. maybe he’ll be a farmer! Maybe he’ll be an agriculture lover. Maybe he will follow in his daddy’s footsteps.. because he sure did today. 🙂

Either way, we plan to cultivate this love that was revealed to us today. (pun also intended)

Here are a few pictures from the day! Enjoy!

Andrew had so much fun on the hayride attached to the big orange tractor!
Andrew had so much fun on the hayride attached to the big orange tractor!
Andrew went straight to the animals and fed them as much as the lady would give him.
Andrew went straight to the animals and fed them as much as the lady would give him.
This sheep was a bit of a food hog.
This sheep was a bit of a food hog.
Andrew was sad that he couldn't feed the ducks/geese.
Andrew was sad that he couldn’t feed the ducks/geese.
But he was ultra excited to go inside the turkey pen with daddy!
But he was ultra excited to go inside the turkey pen with daddy!
His excitement and bravery just made my heart happy.
His excitement and bravery just made my heart happy.
Our little chicken.
Our little chicken.
Cutie-pie!
Cutie-pie!
Petting the chickens!
Petting the chickens!
Our little piggy.
Our little piggy.
Our Farm Family.
Our Farm Family.
This yak was VERY slobbery.
This yak was VERY slobbery.
Yum Yum!
Yum Yum!
Alpacas and llamas!
Alpacas and llamas!
These were really fun.
These were really fun.
We're not quite sure why he needed to pull the horse's ear.. poor horsey.
We’re not quite sure why he needed to pull the horse’s ear.. poor horsey.
We turned around and Andrew had run into the calf nursery and sad down to play. He is gross.
We turned around and Andrew had run into the calf nursery and sad down to play. He is gross.
Do you see him? Playing in the calf's home. Gross.
Do you see him? Playing in the calf’s home. Gross.
The little chick.. poor thing.
The little chick.. poor thing.
He was getting his feathers squeezed to death!
He was getting his feathers squeezed to death!
I was freaking out a bit because he was squeezing the duck's throat.
I was freaking out a bit because he was squeezing the duck’s throat.
Mommy's little pumpkin and his pumpkin. :)
Mommy’s little pumpkin and his pumpkin. 🙂
Proof that we are not capable of taking decent pictures together. Or proof that I do not ever need to be in front of the camera.
Proof that we are not capable of taking decent pictures together. Or proof that I do not ever need to be in front of the camera.
Lots of pumpkins!
Lots of pumpkins!
Mommy and daddy got one picture.
Mommy and daddy got one picture.
MILKING A COW. For real. I was so proud of him.
MILKING A COW. For real. I was so proud of him.
Turkey time!
Turkey time!
Goats and sheep feedin'.
Goats and sheep feedin’.
Hayride crazy faces.
Hayride crazy faces.

It’s Christmas time, pretty baby… (almost) — September 29, 2015

So, we are really bombing at this whole blog regularly thing.

It will get better.. maybe. Hopefully. 🙂

The semester has been flying by. Faster than the airplane that Andrew likes to whiz by our heads constantly. The semester has been less scary than those close airplane calls, though, thank goodness.

We are now on Fall Break, the lovely week-long break that we should be catching up on schoolwork and planning ahead… instead, we’ve been Christmas decorating! 🙂

Now, before you go hatin’, just know that I don’t really care. That sounds blunt now that I read it back, but its just true. Here are the reasons we decorated our apartment for Christmas this early:

  1. We wanted to decorate this early.
  2. Thinking about the Christmas season calms and soothes us. We have so many good memories from that time, especially since our firstborn child was a Christmas baby!
  3. With everything upcoming in October school-wise, we needed to have a calm, relaxing environment pronto.
  4. If we didn’t decorate this week, when will we have time to decorate and truly enjoy the process with school coming back at us at full speed?
  5. We wanted to decorate this early, and being as we are the only ones here to enjoy it, we thought, Why not?

The following are NOT reasons that we decorated our home early:

  1. We don’t like fall.
  2. We don’t like Thanksgiving.
  3. We give in to commercialism.
  4. We are not thankful.

We really love fall; its my very favorite season. We LOVE Thanksgiving. It truly is my favorite holiday. However, I love to celebrate Thanksgiving in the midst of Christmas decor. It’s true. I love pumpkin-anything. I love leaves. I love cool crisp air. I just don’t have fall decorations.

And please don’t read all of this and think I’m bitter.

Also, please don’t read all of this and think that I’m not mentioning the real “reason for the season.” We do not value all of the “pretty-ness” of Christmas decorations above the birth of our Savior, Jesus Christ. 🙂

So, with all of that, I’d like to share pictures of our Christmas decorations with you. However, if you’d rather not see fun happy Christmas pretties, don’t scroll any further. Go look at your orange stuff. 🙂 hehe.

Lyndsey

O, Christmas tree!
O, Christmas tree!
Andrew and Charles painted some paper with green and red, and I cut the triangles out and glued them to a piece of paper for these little accents to our big photo wall.
Andrew and Charles painted some paper with green and red, and I cut the triangles out and glued them to a piece of paper for these little accents to our big photo wall.

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Andrew shared his little feet and hand with me for these two paintings, and the middle was also 50% off at Hobby Lobby a while back, and I added Merry Christmas to it!
Andrew shared his little feet and hand with me for these two paintings, and the middle was also 50% off at Hobby Lobby a while back, and I added Merry Christmas to it!
close up of Andrew's artwork!
close up of Andrew’s artwork!
How CUTE is this. I mean, seriously. Thank you, 50% off at Hobby Lobby.
How CUTE is this. I mean, seriously. Thank you, 50% off at Hobby Lobby.
More Christmas crafts!
More Christmas crafts!
I painted a whole lot this season for our home, and this was one of them. I sure wish it was centered better, though!
I painted a whole lot this season for our home, and this was one of them. I sure wish it was centered better, though!

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There was lots of Christmas crafting around here this weekend.. Andrew and I worked on this garland together!
There was lots of Christmas crafting around here this weekend.. Andrew and I worked on this garland together!
Andrew helping mommy with the garland!
Andrew helping mommy with the garland!
Merry Christmas banner in the hallway. All ready for Andrew's school Christmas crafts, because that's usually his artwork clothesline!
Merry Christmas banner in the hallway. All ready for Andrew’s school Christmas crafts, because that’s usually his artwork clothesline!
I thought this Santa was going to get the best of me.. it was not easy, and it took forever, (right Heather and Ashley) but I really liked it!
I thought this Santa was going to get the best of me.. it was not easy, and it took forever, (right Heather and Ashley) but I really liked it!
close up of my Santa.
close up of my Santa.
Snowman+cactus painting for the bathroom!
Snowman+cactus painting for the bathroom!
Ah, Pinterest success here, my friends. those are socks stuffed with rice, no joke. Those were SO fun to make!
Ah, Pinterest success here, my friends. those are socks stuffed with rice, no joke. Those were SO fun to make!
So we just decided to decorate the guest bathroom in snowmen, because these were just so darn cute!
So we just decided to decorate the guest bathroom in snowmen, because these were just so darn cute!
If you know me, you know how annoyed I am that the garland above the big window has LED lights whereas all of the other lights in the house are soft white...... Charles has to bring me down a level from time to time over that..
If you know me, you know how annoyed I am that the garland above the big window has LED lights whereas all of the other lights in the house are soft white…… Charles has to bring me down a level from time to time over that..
This one was so fun. I LOVE the lit canvases at the Christmas store, but they're SO expensive. So, I painted me up a nativity, and poked holes in it, and put mini lights in it myself! I was so proud of this outcome! So fun!
This one was so fun. I LOVE the lit canvases at the Christmas store, but they’re SO expensive. So, I painted me up a nativity, and poked holes in it, and put mini lights in it myself! I was so proud of this outcome! So fun!
The view from the couch.. it makes me so happy.
The view from the couch.. it makes me so happy.

If you made it this far, good for you. 🙂 Thanks for reading!!

Summer 2015 Hiatus and Back to School!

First day pictures.

Hey everyone!

So, I’m sorry that its been a long time since we last blogged.. I know you’ve all been waiting on pins and needles to know how exciting our life has been.. 🙂

However, I will post a whole bunch of pictures below to catch you up on our summer, and we will pick back up weekly from now on!

This past week, we all started back to school! Andrew moved up a class at preschool, and he loves his new teacher and friends! The very first day back to school, we asked him if he had fun and what he learned at school.. He said, “I be quiet and take turns with my friends at school!” Haha!! Good job, Mrs. Katie! 🙂

Charles started taking classes this semester as well! I can’t believe he made it a whole year without classes.. He loves school. However, he is now working full time and juggling 3 classes, 1 Corinthians with Dr. Patterson, Spiritual Formations, and Systematic Theology 1. I’ll let him tell you a little bit more about what he plans to do with his schooling and where he believes God is leading him in a different post– I believe he would  articulate it much more clearly. 🙂

My semester started back up as well, and the second year of my Master’s degree is well on its way! I am participating in the Master Chorale, and I’m taking Systematic Theology 1, Dynamics of Corporate Worship, Contemporary Worship Leadership, Harmony Review, and History of American Church Music. I’m really excited about how God is leading me toward something more than I’d ever thought I’d do or be interested in.. His plans are great, and His ways are higher than mine! I’ll fill you in on more of that later as well– you’ll just have to stay tuned! 🙂

We have become members at our church, Lamar Baptist Church, since the last time we blogged, I believe. We are so blessed to have found a home to worship our God with our fellow believers. It’s a wonderful place with great people!

Because I have so many pictures to share, and I’d like to go spend some time with my family on Labor Day, I’m going to wrap this up and get on with the pictures! I hope you’ve all had an excellent summer, and are looking forward to the fall! I know that we are, especially as we are munching on the chocolate chip pumpkin bread that just came out of the oven. 🙂

Til next time!

Lyndsey

Mommy's boy.
Mommy’s boy.
Playing with his BFF, Josiah!
Playing with his BFF, Josiah!
Watching airplanes at DFW.
Watching airplanes at DFW.
Exploring on campus.
Exploring on campus.
Silly sliding boy! We had to enjoy the cool weather early one morning!
Silly sliding boy! We had to enjoy the cool weather early one morning!
Playground fun!
Playground fun!
“I spy mommy!”
Riding the train with Nene!
Riding the train with Nene!
Swinging with Papa on the front porch.
Swinging with Papa on the front porch.
Riding with Pawpaw on the boat!
Riding with Pawpaw on the boat!
Our first trip to Safari Splash!! SO much fun.
Our first trip to Safari Splash!! SO much fun.
“Hey Mommy!!!”
Sliding down his favorite green slide at Safari Splash!
Sliding down his favorite green slide at Safari Splash!
Andrew has loved being Dr. Andrew since he got a super cool doctor kit! Shots fix everything.
Andrew has loved being Dr. Andrew since he got a super cool doctor kit! Shots fix everything.
Music Camp fun.
Music Camp fun.
One of our many trips to the Christmas store this summer!
One of our many trips to the Christmas store this summer!
The Huckaby's at a Rangers game!
The Huckaby’s at a Rangers game!
Us and Robert at the Rangers game!
Us and Robert at the Rangers game!
Andrew loved the Rangers game! Mainly, it was an awesome place to watch the airplanes going over. Ha!
Andrew loved the Rangers game! Mainly, it was an awesome place to watch the airplanes going over. Ha!
Andrew and Mommy at the zoo.
Andrew and Mommy at the zoo.
Mommy and Andrew's date to the zoo!
Mommy and Andrew’s date to the zoo!
Andrew enjoying some Braums Ice Cream with Mommy for our last day out before summer ended.
Andrew enjoying some Braums Ice Cream with Mommy for our last day out before summer ended.
First day of Preschool for 2015-2016!
First day of Preschool for 2015-2016!
First day pictures.
First day pictures.
Andrew's first day success slush!
Andrew’s first day success slush!
Andrew had a fall that scared us! Thankfully these scars are mostly healed!
Andrew had a fall that scared us! Thankfully these scars are mostly healed!
Mommy and Daddy's first day of classes!
Mommy and Daddy’s first day of classes!
Andrew loves his sweet friend, Josiah!
Andrew loves his sweet friend, Josiah!
Family picture from Labor Day Weekend at Lamar Baptist Church!
Family picture from Labor Day Weekend at Lamar Baptist Church!
Andrew was feeding Nene EVERYTHING he had cooked.
Andrew was feeding Nene EVERYTHING he had cooked.
Andrew and Daddy hijacked Mommy's phone for selfies!
Andrew and Daddy hijacked Mommy’s phone for selfies!
Us at Texas Roadhouse while Pop, Nene, and Mary were visiting!
Us at Texas Roadhouse while Pop, Nene, and Mary were visiting!
Andrew and Daddy playing with stickers.
Andrew and Daddy playing with stickers.

Lessons From My Father

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As we celebrate Father’s Day 2015, I’ve been reflecting on my own dear father. Like most children I’m sure, when I was young I often gave my dad something that I really wanted for myself but I “gifted” it to him. As I slightly matured, I tried to put more thought into the gift, but I began to realize just how difficult it was to find an appropriate gift. The man is the picture of contentment. He still drives his 1979 pickup and has no plans of ever needing another one! Part of my father’s character has always been to sacrifice – he’s never “needed” anything. He just always provided for us. There wasn’t much of anything he ever wanted except to be with us. So, buying a new tie or even a new t.v. just never seemed enough. As I am now a father and I relish the joy of my own son, I have become immeasurably more grateful for my father than I could ever imagine. To be sure, I have always loved and been thankful for my father, but these last few years have helped me understand how God uses fatherhood to help teach me things that I’ve only understood partially up until now. As I look into the eyes of my son, I think about the things that my earthly father has done for me, and sometimes I’m able to understand more fully about things that my Heavenly Father has done for me. So, this Father’s Day my meager gift is to reflect on just a few lessons from my father and express my sincerest affection. My desire is that anyone who may read this would be encouraged to honor their own father, and any dad would be encouraged to be more like our Heavenly Father.

My dad has taught me many lessons. He taught me the fundamentals of carpentry. He taught me the fundamentals of mathematics. He taught me the fundamental things a man needs to have in his pockets to face the day. For those of you who have never received this blessing, you need your keys, comb, handkerchief, pen, pocketknife, wallet, and a watch. And, tuck your shirt in and wear a belt. It’s really that simple. When you have these essentials, you are prepared for almost anything. For those of you that know my dad, just look at him. Does he look unprepared? Exactly. Also, notice that a cell phone did not enter the equation. It’s still not an essential for him.

As time has passed, I’ve realized that my dad taught me the fundamentals of the faith from an early age, even without the usage of the theological terms that I’m learning during our journey at Southwestern. That’s where I want to focus the balance of this essay because the fundamentals of the faith are truly fundamentals to life. I always knew that my dad was teaching me, but it really came into clear focus one night when listening to the classic sermon by Dr. Jerry Vines, “A Baptist and his Bible.” As Dr. Vines explained the doctrines of Scripture found in 2 Timothy 3 and he told the story of little Billy Baptist, I felt tears fill my eyes as I reflected on the blessings of my childhood and that I was fortunate enough to be brought up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

14 But you must continue in the things which you have learned and been assured of, knowing from whom you have learned them, 15 and that from childhood you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.

16 All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, 17 that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.

Paul told Timothy to continue in the faith that he learned in his childhood. We’re not told about Timothy’s father, but we are told that Timothy learned the Bible from his mother Eunice and his grandmother Lois. I can identify. I have a wonderful mother and a precious, godly grandmother who is in Paradise today, but in a day and time when Biblical manhood and fatherhood are so under attack, I praise God for the influence of my father.

I learned as a young boy that the Bible was important. I knew that it was the most important book in the world because it was God’s Word. It was life. I’ve never heard my father use the words “inerrant “ or “infallible” but as I learned those words later in life, the definitions sounded very familiar. My father had taught me that the Bible was true. Every word. It could be trusted. There was never any doubt of whether the first eleven chapters of Genesis were historical fact. Daniel’s night in the Lion’s Den was not a fairy tale, but a fact. So were the story of Jonah, the battles described in Judges, and every other story in the Bible that is often attacked as myth. There was no doubt that the Bible was truly “given by inspiration of God.”

He took this seriously. We owned some children’s Bible that used cartoons to tell the Bible stories. It was a big, detailed Bible, but it was never the Bible I was taught from because it contained error. In the author’s efforts to appeal to children, he had compromised the truth of Scripture. That was unacceptable to my father. That was a valuable lesson that I often think of as Lyndsey and I work to teach Andrew the Scriptures in age-appropriate methods. Thanks to my father, I learned that children can understand the Bible just the way it is without catering to any perceived needs for simplification.

One day I was visiting with a much older cousin. My dad is like a big brother to him. He recounted to me when he was young and would spend the night with my grandparents and room with my dad. He told me that even at that age, my dad read his Bible faithfully at night. I can’t speak to the years that I wasn’t present, but I can attest that over fifty years later, it is still my father’s routine to read his Bible at night. Many times when I was still at home, I would come in at night and find my dad at his desk reading his Bible. If I call home in the evenings now, that is usually what he is doing when I call. The example he has set speaks louder than any sermon he could have given me.

My dad has never been much of a public speaker. He fills in at Sunday School when needed, but he always says he doesn’t feel qualified. I would disagree but maybe I’m biased. I do remember one time as a small child hearing my father teach the Bible in public. For any readers outside of the Baptist tradition, many churches have men’s ministries called Brotherhood. It is where men gather to feast on the Scripture and organize to serve the church and community. And since we are Baptists, there is a more visible feast involved too. In our church, the men met every third Sunday morning of the month before Sunday School for breakfast. One of the men would teach a Bible lesson. I don’t remember how old I was, but I had to be pretty small. But I can still plainly see my father standing at the podium proclaiming the truth found in the story of Noah. My dad may not have understood the concept of verbal, plenary inspiration of Scripture, but he had no doubt that every word in the story of Noah was true. He had no reservations teaching those truths to us that day.

My dad also taught me at an early age that church attendance was vitally important to the life of a believer. I had always known that my dad took me to those Brotherhood meetings pretty much from the time I was out of the womb. But after Andrew was born, I began to realize what all that involved. Remember, it’s just a men’s meeting. That means my Dad had me all to himself. He was perfectly competent and I never stressed when I had Andrew alone when he was an infant, either. But as Andrew became a very active toddler, I marveled at the thought of my father keeping me focused during a Brotherhood meeting. When I asked him how he did it, he paused and said, “I don’t know…. But we went to church.” That’s the kind of resolve I learned as a child! Without a doubt there must have been times that I misbehaved and embarrassed my father. But like David in 2 Samuel 6, my father was willing to be humbled in his own eyes in order to worship. As Lyndsey and I are beginning our journey of bringing Andrew into the worship service with us, I take great pleasure in knowing that.

Daddy also taught me to love listening to sound preaching. For many years, every Sunday morning we listened to Adrian Rogers while we ate breakfast. There was a time when I didn’t enjoy it as much, but that was mainly because God spoke conviction to my spirit while I listened. Now, the voice of Adrian Rogers always brings comfort. His voice has formed part of the soundtrack of my life. Now, there’s rarely a day that passes that I don’t listen to preaching in some form, and it’s all because my father developed a love within me for hearing God’s Word proclaimed.

My dad has taught me many other things related to our faith in Christ. I’ve seen him visit the sick, call on those who were perpetually forsook the body of believers, and confront fellow believing coworkers who were not living on the job what they professed on Sunday. I’ve watched him live as father of the prodigal son and never lose hope in the promises of God. He demonstrated to me that it really is possible to not let any unwholesome talk come out of my mouth, but only that which is edifying. He’s lived the testimony of loving your wife as Christ loved the church, by laying down his life every day for my mother – a lesson I wish I could say I have taken to heart as well as he has. He taught me that divorce is never an option and that your children are only young once. They should be loved extravagantly but consistently prepared for the day they are on their own. But even with that understanding, I know that my father is always there to support me as I raise my own family. I know my father is not perfect. I’m sure he will think I’ve praised him too much in this essay, but as I strive to support and lead my family closer to Christ, I can not help but acknowledge that I am only building on the foundation my father laid many years ago. I’m thankful that he taught me the wonder of God’s Word so that I may be complete and thoroughly equipped for every good work.

Happy Father’s Day, Daddy!

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Summer Hiatus = Picture Overload (May 17-June 20)

So, we obviously took a summer hiatus from the blog. Sorry about that. However, in this post we will catch you up with pictures from the past few weeks, and next weekend we will pick back up with the exciting adventures from Mississippi! 🙂

Happy Summer, people! 🙂

Eric and I went down to celebrate Emily's graduation with her! YAY EMILY!
Eric and I went down to celebrate Emily’s graduation with her! YAY EMILY!
Andrew fell asleep in Papaw's lap-- Papaw is magic at naptime.
Andrew fell asleep in Papaw’s lap– Papaw is magic at naptime.
Andrew and Mommy ready to SWIM!
Andrew and Mommy ready to SWIM!
Shaggy headed Andrew and Daddy...
Shaggy headed Andrew and Daddy…
Clean cut Andrew and Daddy!
Clean cut Andrew and Daddy!
Apples to Apples with the family!
Apples to Apples with the family!
Daddy and I testing out the Selfie Stick they gave me for mother's day. :)
Daddy and I testing out the Selfie Stick they gave me for mother’s day. 🙂
Homemade cheese cake with amazing homemade blueberry sauce. Only at Papa and Mawmaw's. MMMMM!
Homemade cheese cake with amazing homemade blueberry sauce. Only at Papa and Mawmaw’s. MMMMM!
Mom and I testing it out..
Mom and I testing it out..
Papa and Andrew reading Pout Pout Fish.
Papa and Andrew reading Pout Pout Fish.
Daddy and me at Court's Graduation!
Daddy and me at Court’s Graduation!
Beautiful Texas sunset we witnessed on our way home.
Beautiful Texas sunset we witnessed on our way home.
Mama and me at Court's graduation!
Mama and me at Court’s graduation!
Andrew has so much fun playing with the door at Chikfila.
Andrew has so much fun playing with the door at Chikfila.
Andrew and daddy reading at CoCo's graduation.
Andrew and daddy reading at CoCo’s graduation.
Andrew loved his cookie. He's a cookie monster.
Andrew loved his cookie. He’s a cookie monster.
There's our graduate!
There’s our graduate!
Andrew was reading quite intently.
Andrew was reading quite intently.
CoCo and AG!
CoCo and AG!
They were giving a sweet kiss, but of course, I missed it.
They were giving a sweet kiss, but of course, I missed it.
The graduate and Mommy and Daddy!
The graduate and Mommy and Daddy!
Chasing that silly balloon.
Chasing that silly balloon.
The family all there to support our favorite high school graduate!
The family all there to support our favorite high school graduate!

Lyndsey

Mommy had an egg-celent omelet. :)
Mommy had an egg-celent omelet. 🙂
They both had food in their mouths in this picture.. haha.
They both had food in their mouths in this picture.. haha.
After the crazy week at music camp, we for SURE needed Ol' South breakfast that Saturday morning. And it did not fail. Twas WONDERFUL.
After the crazy week at music camp, we for SURE needed Ol’ South breakfast that Saturday morning. And it did not fail. Twas WONDERFUL.
Marble Slab ice cream cake!
Marble Slab ice cream cake!
These boys are so fun.
These boys are so fun.
Awkward family photo. We made up a game with stickers on our noses..
Awkward family photo. We made up a game with stickers on our noses..
At the Music Camp that I worked, we had #selfieswithDrDay one day, and my selfie stick came in quite handy. :)
At the Music Camp that I worked, we had #selfieswithDrDay one day, and my selfie stick came in quite handy. 🙂
Beautiful dreamer.
Beautiful dreamer.
I had sure been missing my boys the week of music camp, so we went out to a yummy dinner at Chipotle and had some ice cream. Of course, AG's favorite part was this fountain! :)
I had sure been missing my boys the week of music camp, so we went out to a yummy dinner at Chipotle and had some ice cream. Of course, AG’s favorite part was this fountain! 🙂
Swimming fun with
Swimming fun with “Siah!” (Josiah)
Andrew wanted to touch daddy's nose. I'd say he did a good job. :)
Andrew wanted to touch daddy’s nose. I’d say he did a good job. 🙂
Can you guess how many puzzles we did that day.... Yep.
Can you guess how many puzzles we did that day…. Yep.
Andrew has been all about airplanes lately.. This is him with his airplane searching for airplanes in the sky. In this area, there are always airplanes above, and Andrew can spot an airplane forever away! So fun!
Andrew has been all about airplanes lately.. This is him with his airplane searching for airplanes in the sky. In this area, there are always airplanes above, and Andrew can spot an airplane forever away! So fun!
“CHEESE AIRPLANE!”
This is a picture of Andrew with the shakers at VBS. He had so much fun
This is a picture of Andrew with the shakers at VBS. He had so much fun “Journey-ing off the Map!”
Laid back relaxing. The good sleep.
Laid back relaxing. The good sleep.
Andrew and I went and visited with a friend at Chik-Fil-A and in his kids meal were these really fun robot and owl puppets. So we put them together and had fun!
Andrew and I went and visited with a friend at Chik-Fil-A and in his kids meal were these really fun robot and owl puppets. So we put them together and had fun!
Andrew made these binoculars at VBS, and he has been exploring ever since.
Andrew made these binoculars at VBS, and he has been exploring ever since.
Andrew loves to play, I Spy; in this picture, he spied Mommy! :)
Andrew loves to play, I Spy; in this picture, he spied Mommy! 🙂
“Look Mommy! I see rocks and water!”
Cheesing on the bridge; we were about to go see the World and the Bible (behind him).
Cheesing on the bridge; we were about to go see the World and the Bible (behind him).
While I was taking this picture, he was saying, C'mon, Mommy!
While I was taking this picture, he was saying, C’mon, Mommy!
“Mommy, read it. Jesus.” The Bible has the Great Commission written on it, and it says “Jesus Christ” below it.
We had so much fun on that hot adventure!
We had so much fun on that hot adventure!
I let him stand on the rock in the middle of the little creek there to play in the water.. He was so excited.
I let him stand on the rock in the middle of the little creek there to play in the water.. He was so excited.

“Spreading the Cheery Cheeries!” (May 10-16)

Hey yall!

Quickly, we’d like to thank you who actually still read this blog. We do it for you. We try to take pictures all through the week of funny/sweet/exciting things to share with you because you’re not here to enjoy it with us. (However, it also serves as sort of a journal for us as well, so we enjoy it, too.)

Anyway, we hope you all are well. It’s been a decent week here! Nothing terrible and nothing overly exciting.

Charles was a little sick mid-week. He is feeling somewhat better; Andrew is a tiny bit under the weather now as well– we are hoping that it is just his 2 year old molars that I believe are still chilling under those gums.

This was Andrew’s final week at the preschool for a little while; he will go back during the week that I am working at the Music Camp. Otherwise it is Mommy-Andrew Summertime! 🙂 I’m really excited. We will miss daddy while he is at work and studying, but we are going to make the most of our time!

This week we crafted and played with lots of playdoh (Many thanks to the AWESOME toolbox of playdoh tools from Mrs. Annette and her girls!). Andrew fingerpainted and made some beautiful creations for some lucky grandparents back home! We get to take them to them when we go home this week! 🙂 YAY!

Andrew has started reading The Very Hungry Caterpillar to us, and we have been thoroughly enjoying his impressive narrations. 🙂 Also, Andrew has a new puppy dog book called Doggies by Sandra Boynton (whom we really like– she also wrote one his favorites, Barnyard Dance, of which Nene likes to narrate.) and The Pout-Pout Fish; we love that new book! Actually, Mommy and Daddy are going to stay up and learn “The Pout-Pout Fish Song” tonight so we can surprise Andrew with it tomorrow…. we are those parents.. 🙂 (The title of the post is from The Pout-Pout Fish.. No we are not crazies!)

On another note, I would like to add in here our experience thus far with a two-year old. I have grown to dislike the phrase “Terrible Two’s.” I feel like if you have a better attitude about this age, then it won’t be terrible. Therefore, before Andrew ever turned two, Charles and I decided to view it as “Teaching Two’s.” 6 months in, we can honestly say that it has been the farthest thing from terrible. I thoroughly enjoy parenting my little Twosie. He is so much fun; he is brilliant, funny, clever, smart, gentle, kind, loving, obedient, and observant.. And that’s just a sampling! Parenting him is not the easiest thing in the world. However, teaching him has been one of our greatest joys. Seeing him grow and soaking in every ounce of precious time we have with our Andygraham has made for some of the most meaningful moments in our lives. The thing is, you have to want these moments.. they don’t just come up out of nowhere. We have to make the time for these moments, and we have to put our phones down, books away, and schedules on hold and create special moments with him.. And if we don’t, then it might be terrible. Actually, it probably will be terrible. But it is our responsibility to pour into him what is good, true, and worthwhile. This is a huge responsibility, absolutely. However, it is the most exciting, nerve-wracking, frustrating, beautiful, precious, rewarding calling that God has placed in our lives. We are Andrew’s Mommy and Daddy, and we are so proud and grateful to be.

Okay okay, I’ll let you get to the pictures now.

We love you all! Hope you spread the “cheery cheeries” instead of the “dreary wearies” this week! 🙂

Lyndsey

Andrew's first day of preschool in January and his last day of preschool this week! Same crazy boy. :)
Andrew’s first day of preschool in January and his last day of preschool this week! Same crazy boy. 🙂
Andrew was just hanging out with his boots by his side while we watched our favorite, "Seven Brides for Seven Brothers."
Andrew was just hanging out with his boots by his side while we watched our favorite, “Seven Brides for Seven Brothers.”
He loves Howard Keel. :)
He loves Howard Keel. 🙂
I think he was comfy. and worn out.
I think he was comfy. and worn out.
Poor Charlie.. He thought I was coming from the other way and he was bringing me the umbrella; however, I was already up the stairs from the other side! He is the sweetest man.
Poor Charlie.. He thought I was coming from the other way and he was bringing me the umbrella; however, I was already up the stairs from the other side! He is the sweetest man.
Andrew was very smiley at Subway.
Andrew was very smiley at Subway.
Froggie!!
Froggie!!
He loves making Playdoh creations!
He loves making Playdoh creations!
Spaghetti and meatballs.... right?
Spaghetti and meatballs…. right?
He was all about those glasses!
He was all about those glasses!
MOOOOOOO!!!
MOOOOOOO!!!
The Very Hungry Caterpillar, Doggies, and The Pout-Pout Fish.
The Very Hungry Caterpillar, Doggies, and The Pout-Pout Fish.